What is an energy vampire?
An energy vampire is an individual who consciously, or unconsciously, draining other’s personal energies. We are talking about your actual energetic/physical energy – not just a “feeling” that someone is exhausting around you.
There is a huge difference between dealing with someone who is difficult versus someone who is an energy vampire, but many times they are the same thing. Energy vampires will deplete your personal energy to the point where you can be damaged - your emotional stability as well as your physical state of well being. This is SERIOUS.
NOTE – just because you don’t like someone does not mean they are an energy vampire.
What does this mean?
It means, that when they are around other people they suck the energy away from those other people either for themselves or for something that is attached to them.
Sometimes the person is aware of what they are doing because they realize there is something hazy attached to them, and they know that the feel better after they have been around other people. 90% of people do not realize they themselves are energy vampires and that they are draining others energy away.
Where do you encounter energy vampires?
Everywhere – family, friends, co-workers, church goers – there is no restriction to where you can find these people, though there are certain personality traits that tend towards being an energy vampire.
Victims of Energy Vampires general feel:
Physically drained – even exhausted
Emotionally upset, emotionally unstable
Sick to your stomach
Slimed”– as if something covered them in “ick”
Some experience headaches – often caused by blockages put in place by energy vampires
The Energy Vampire, however, leaves your encounter feeling energized, satisfied, and raring to go.
Many people develop unhealthy patterns of behavior as coping mechanisms – especially when the energy vampire is a family member or partner. The ability to emotionally balance needs has been worn away and other detritus within the person are often stimulated by the energy attack of the energy vampire.
Typical Signs of Energy Vampires: Please note - these personality traits occur throughout our population – it does not mean that every manipulator or narcissist is an energy vampire! Remember this, but also pay attention to how you feel when you are encountering these individuals!
Extroverted (98%) 98% of the time Energy vampires are extroverted in one-on-one situations. This is not a given for all public or group situations, but definitely in small groups they have a tendency to dominate any conversation you are having whether they are perceived as obnoxious or nice.
Drama Oriented Drama – they always seem to be having “things” happen to them. They seem to always be put upon by others, used by others, victimized by others – there is always “something” dramatic happening around them. The truth is they live off of drama – the more drama the happier they are.
Energy vampires cause frequent arguments. Arguments create drama which creates an opening for them to feed off of you since arguments are generally emotionally based. You are emotionally attached to beliefs and issues and when you get upset you open up to your emotions and then the energy vampire, in turn, feeds off your energy.
Physical Boundary issues The next key is that Energy Vampires have a tendency to get touchy feely, always making sure they touch the person at least once or twice during their encounter – in many cases, a lot more. In intimate relationships, they may want you to sit by them all the time so they can reach out and touch you, thus making sure they have a constant supply to your personal energy.
Emotional Boundary Issues Energy Vampires have emotional boundary issues – their life is paramount, their drama is paramount, and often they use the brunt force of their personality to get what they want. Many are narcissistic, some are extreme manipulators, while others are very self-absorbed.
The majority of energy vampires have difficulty recognizing personal boundaries. They just disregard other’s rights to emotional space or even to their own emotions. If they know you have a button, they will push it; if you ask them to stop, they will pretend to go along with you, but they will return to the topic at some point down the road.
Hidden Agendas / Personal Motivations Just because someone is viewed in life as a “nice person” does not mean that they are not an emotional vampire. You have to look below the surface and analyze their motivations. The goal of all energy vampires is to get what they want when they want it and what they want is your time and attention so they can steal your personal energy.
Some people may change their behavior after it is brought to their attention, but most won’t stop it until confronted. Even then some won’t even consider what you are saying – instead they will fall into the “victim” role and turn the tables on you and blame you for the entire situation. They will provoke in any way they have to get what they want.
Lack of Respect – don’t view others as partners/equals In general, these individuals lack true respect for others and view them as tools, or objects in their life.
EXAMPLES: #1 ~ I used to have someone in my life who was caring and compassionate. She is an older woman who I respected greatly, I placed great confidence in her and her thoughts and opinions during an extremely stressful and trying time during my life and she was very supportive to me. But over the period of a couple of years I realized our meetings had devolved into the “me, me, me, me, me – oh and how are you doing” pattern.
She always acted as if she cared about me, but 90% of the conversation was about her and all the drama going on with her kids, ex, jobs, boyfriends, etc. Every part of the conversation was geared towards eliciting empathy from me which she would try to feed off of. Once she realized I was not feeding her, our ability to get together often was sharply decreased.
#2 ~ I knew a woman who was slightly older than myself. She was independent, mid-level manager in the corporate world. She had never married, but was close to her family that lived in a different state. We worked together and then she bought a home in my neighborhood, so we would walk at night. We became good friends. During our visits, I would often note that she was drained of energy and almost listless. She was suffering from depression and had great apathy although she had just built her dream home in a safe neighborhood.
We would talk most every day and eventually she confided in me that her sister had died right as we had met. I had not known – she was extremely professional at work. But she now talked daily to her mother and her mother was pressuring her to return to her home state and live with her. There was no need – her siblings all lived nearby and one even lived in the house with her mother still. I could see that she looked like a pin cushion energetically and I pointed it out to her. We did some work and I removed all the ‘pins’ that were stuck in her and her energy started coming back.
The next night we met for our walk and all the pins were back. She had spoken to her mother who continued to plague her about returning to home – to giving up her good job, to move away from the home and life she had built. Eventually, my friend was so worn from the constant energy abuse that she caved in and put her home up for sale.
During this time we had many conversations about her mother being an energy vampire. At first she denied it – her mother was kind and wanted to help others. When I pointed out the various traits her mother exhibited PLUS all that I was clairvoyantly seeing, she acknowledged the truth of the situation. However, the damage was done. My friend relocated to her home state.
How does this happen?
Excellent question! In energetic terms, for individuals to pull energy from others the gift of receptive empathy is required. The person does not need to be aware that they have this gift!
There are two types of empathy gifts – and people can have both! Receptive empaths receive the emotions and energies of others where projective empaths project their emotions out to others. It is possible to be both receptive and projective.
In general, being a receptive empath does NOT mean you are automatically an energy vampire, but it does mean the capacity is there to be one with the correct incentive. When someone does not value the consequences of their actions that leaves them open to stealing others energy.
The second consideration depends entirely on the detritus and demons attached to the individual. Every human has detritus and demons attached to them. These negative vibration beings influence the individuals they are attached to through their emotional states, and they are very competent at getting what they want.
Think of it as an addiction – it is a subtle part of the person and they will do what they need to do to ‘feel better’ whether it is cigarettes, alcohol, or any form of drugs. This time, though, the urge is not caused by a physical addiction, but an energetic addiction caused by a negative energetic attachment.
So – the big question – how can I protect myself?
Yes – protect yourself. Again and Again I will say it – you are responsible for protecting yourself and no one else can or will do it for you.
#1 be aware of your state of being around people. Whether at work or at home – you have to protect yourself - and if you have children you have to protect them too.
So we are going to start with the basic exercise that should be in everyone’s repertoire – Shielding with Archangel Michael.
You don’t have to believe in Angelics for this to work, but you do need to stipulate prior to do this – or any type of energy work – that you want to work only with beings 100% of the Light. Otherwise, you will end up working with those that do not care what happens to you. See explanation above.
I strongly suggest that you do it daily upon waking and then as often as you can remember to do it.
Shielding with Archangel Michael
First, you will shield yourself.
Put yourself in a comfortable sitting position. As you progress with this exercise, you should be able to do it anywhere during anything happening in your life in just moments. In the beginning, however, take all the time you need to learn this thoroughly – until it becomes an automatic reflex instead of your having to focus on it.